婚姻監禮 Civil Celebrant

主婚人

結婚證書要有兩個主婚人簽名,一般都是男女雙方各派一個主婚人,最普遍是雙方父親,但其實任何年滿十八歲的人都可以作為見證人簽結婚證書的。
今日去證婚,第一次遇上失明的主婚人要簽結婚證書。在儀式開始前,我在一張白紙上劃了一條橫線,練習簽名時我要給她的指示。又特地確保她在簽名枱舒適就座,在婚禮過程中她不用走動。與人溝通,做足準備,令婚禮順利進行,是做證婚律師的重要職責。今天又充實了我的經驗了。

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返回校園結婚 (2)

兩年前第一次去中學證婚。兩年後同一日,我再去到同一間中學,為另一對同班同學證婚。今年的新郎是兩年前婚禮的兄弟。

兩年前我為了學校婚禮寫了關於學校禮堂的speech,本來打算今年再拿出來講一次。但今次的新人要求我講他們婚禮的theme “Time is Love”。我寫了篇新講詞。
“時間可以沖淡一切。但站在我們前面的一對證明了唔係所有嘢都會隨時間而變淡。佢哋由中一認識,中三開始拍拖,喺埋一齊已很多年了。
時間見證成長,時間昇華感情。
今日返去中學結婚,特別有意義。
回想第一次去這個學校禮堂,應該是辦理登記入學。你哋由小學生變做中學生,由小朋友變做少年。展開成長新階段。
今日在呢個禮堂結婚。由情侶結為夫婦,組織一個家,展開人生新階段。
執子之手,与子偕老。時間會繼續見證你們的愛,越來越好,二合為一的人生,越來越圓滿。”

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兩個妹妹結婚了

剛剛個weekend去了兩個妹妹的婚禮。
一個妹妹的家姐兩年半前由我證婚,而家已成為幸福靚媽媽。家姐做MC,講細個時兩個人share一個朱古力bun,自己幾肚餓都會留番一半俾細妹。睇成長片段時,家姐感動到喊。回想我家姐結婚時,我喊足一日,攝影師想同我拍條片講講感受,我一開口就喊,冇辦法拍得到。所以我好明白個妹結婚有幾咁感動。
另一個妹妹的哥哥三年前由我見證婚禮。今朝哥哥post了兩兄妹小時候同今日亞妹著住結婚衫的合照。兩張相同一個pose。細妹要出嫁了,哥哥話仲係始終有少少接受唔倒。我好明白細細個一齊玩,個妹大個女要成家立室,第時要約先會一齊食飯,唔係返屋企就一定見到,實在要時間adjust.
兩個婚禮都份外有親切感。新娘daddy話認得我,有些我唔認得的人話我頭髮長了。見到兄妹姊妹個個都咁幸福,我叫做在他們的wedding day出過分力,真係好開心。

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又平又靚嘅證婚律師

有人揾又平又靚嘅證婚律師,我朋友話平就唔知,但靚就一定,推薦咗我!哈,唔知佢哋講緊我的外表還是服務呢?

我post了上Facebook,很多人comment “Both”。Heehee…. 留言的人有剛剛結婚,也有已結婚四五年的。好感動,幫人證婚帶給我很多快樂。這份工作guarantee 每次接觸的人都開開心心,正經歷一世人中最重要最幸福的一天,而我可以play a part in it。

我要好好save起那些comments。如果日後猶疑繼唔繼續幫人證婚,我會攞番出來睇。有咩工作會得到咁多人讚美咁feel good呢!多謝大家給我力量!

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Star Ferry Wedding

When I think of Hong Kong, I think of the beautiful Victoria Harbour. When I think of the harbour, I think of the Star Ferry. What can be more Hong Kong than having a wedding ceremony on the Star Ferry? Getting married on the Star Ferry sounds like a romantic idea, and it’s especially popular with westerners and mixed couples. Recently I was asked to give some advice on Star Ferry wedding. Here comes some tips for those planning a wedding on the famous green and white boat.

Star Ferry Company rents out ferries on its own standard terms which apply many restrictions to your planning e.g. number of guests, time and duration of the ceremony. I would suggest the first step is to read the rental terms and conditions to check if it fits your expectation.

Capacity – even though the Star Ferry states the maximum capacity of each type of ferries, it would be uncomfortable if your party fills to the maximum limit. You have to leave room for people to walk around and mingle. Also, the wedding ceremony usually takes place at the front of the ferry. That front compartment can only hold around 60 people. So if you have more than 60 guests, some of them may not be able to get a close view of the ceremony.

Duration – the Star Ferry cruises along the harbour for as long as you book it. I think the most appropriate duration is two hours. This would give enough time for guests to be seated and for the couple and other relevant parties to prepare for the ceremony. The wedding ceremony itself usually takes around 20 minutes. After the ceremony, allow time for speech, cake cutting, toasting and photo taking. There is nowhere to go on the ferry. Try to think of ways to entertain the guests e.g. giving them little notepaper to write words for the couple, fun photo booth for taking photos etc. Ceremony longer than two hours might make your guests feel crammed in for too long. There are not that many toilets on board; long duration in a confined space may pose inconvenience.

Logistics – planning a wedding on a ferry takes significant effort. Normally your ferry docks at the pier 30 minutes before the actual ferry departure time. During that 30 minutes, you have to get all the decoration and catering ready. Time pressure is immense even for professional service providers. If you plan a DIY event, try to engage friends who won’t freak out under pressure… Once the ferry leaves the pier, obviously no one late can get on board. Be sure you delegate a person to count the number of expected guests and make sure all the VIPs, e.g. witnesses signing the marriage certificate are on time.

Decoration – the normal ferry feels quite bare and it would be nice to add some wedding theme decoration. Be aware that the ferry rocks a lot especially at the pier. Making something stand still may not be an easy task. I have seen poster stand falling down, professional decorators running out of tapes to stick things firmly…

Catering – keeping drinks cold in the summer and keeping food hot in the winter can be a challenge. Multi-tier wedding cake might be susceptible to collapse during transportation. Keep your food and beverage simple. Save your big wedding feast after you get off the ferry.

Weather risk – even if you have made the perfect plan, you still have to wish for luck to make your perfect wedding come true. Private rental Star Ferry does not operate in typhoon number 3 or some other weather warnings. This is a significant consideration/risk if your wedding is in the summer months. The ferry is also quite open to the elements. Heavy rain, strong wind, super hot or cold climate may hamper the comfort level of the ceremony too. If the ferry cannot operate due to adverse weather, Star Ferry Company allows you to hold the ceremony at the pier, but it is just a rather crude waiting area. My advice is to have a contingency plan to fall back to if the ferry ceremony does not go ahead.

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拋花球

婚禮其中一個highlight,是新娘拋花球。我覺得尤其是在戶外場地,那張action shot會好靚好有wedding的感覺。一世人只會做一次新娘拋花球,記住唔好忽略這個環節。

首先,你要認清會參與搶花球的單身女仕的人數。如果你大部份朋友都已婚或者好怕醜,冇人出來參與,那就没有氣氛了。

決定人數後,就要揀好位置。酒樓地方一般比較淺窄,好難在入席後揾個位去集合一班人,企得落仲要有位影相。室內樓底矮,花球隨時撞上天花板,未被搶到就已經撞爛了。如果你唔想掟爛個真花球,記住準備個dummy呀。

拋花球可以順其自然,但是最好內定一個特別積極想搶到的朋友。最怕花球跌咗落地,冇人肯拾,非常尷尬。好記得有一次一班小學學界籃球精英去參加籃球敎練的婚禮,新娘一拋花球,個男學生自然反應地見到高的東西接住,拿着花球後唔知點算,勁攪笑!

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幫兩姊妹證婚

五年前幫個家姐證婚,昨日幫她的妹妹證婚。我覺得同呢對姊妹有種好親近的感覺。

在婚禮上,家姐的仔仔做花仔帶頭march in。新人在正式註冊前向對方講的一段speech,感人至深,我以為我相當老練,但都差點忍唔住感動到喊。見到她們兩姊妹都咁幸福,真係好開心。

臨走前,我和家姐擁抱。有咩工作會五年之後再遇上“client”,佢仲會咁感激?我真係好中意好中意證婚!

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婚禮後隨寫:同公司結婚

新郎新娘是同事,到場的guests過半數是同事。司儀、新人的speech都不停多謝公司,點名多謝上司。新娘話佢一半人生係公司嘅,一半係老公嘅。連個成長片段最後個shot都要key張結婚相在公司building前面!到底我去咗婚禮還是公司周年晚會?

新郎致謝辭,話要多謝父母前先要多謝公司!雖然講到公司幾咁重要,但講公司同事時就談笑風生,多謝父母養育之恩時就感動到講唔倒嘢,眼淚都抺了幾次!一比,就睇得出邊個係真心感謝,邊個係俾面要mention。

一路聽新人的speech,提咗個公司名起碼十次。我記起幾年前幫過個人證婚,都在同一公司工作,就周圍望吓那人有冇在場。一睇,有冇咁啱呀?佢正正坐在我前面!真係有緣相見!同佢哋打招呼,佢老婆即刻讚我個wedding做得好好!哈哈,我好中意被人讚,尤其係佢!她的婚禮是非常traditional的英語婚禮,自從婚禮後冇同佢聯絡,我一直都驚佢覺得我個樣太young唔夠台型。今日她的comment我才confirm她滿意我當日的表現!

除了那個couple,今日仲遇到另一對我為他們證婚的couple。我幾年前為今日的新娘的舊同學證婚,她介紹我去this wedding。那對couple今日帶埋個女出席,見到他們幸福一家三口,真係好開心!I gave them my blessing before!

在婚禮前同新人做final briefing,司儀特別提醒要試筆,因為她自己結婚簽紙時枝筆冇墨。我專登叫新人用我枝羽毛筆簽聲明書,確保人人都試用過枝筆。到到正式簽結婚證書時,新郎簽完後,到新娘簽名時突然冇墨!有冇咁邪呀?! 好彩今日間酒店好好,我只係望住個醒目waiter做咗個口形,佢已經即刻拿筆上台。火速,好似冇人發現唔妥。

枝筆寫寫吓冇色已經奇怪,我件jacket在婚禮後離奇fell off two buttons。咁邪呀?! 好地地嘅嘢會突然無故變壞,非吉利之兆也。

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不想去的婚禮地點

貪新鮮的我,喜歡去特別的場地參加婚禮,時常因為有機會嘗試新的證婚體驗而興奮。但這次不一樣。

將會去個婚禮,新人本來計劃明年才結婚,但因新娘的爸爸患病,要臨時將婚期提前到今年,臨時找了我做婚姻監禮人。知道新娘父親的情況後,我決定盡量配合他們一切要求。婚禮時間和地點,要到到最後一刻才決定。按計劃應到酒店註冊行禮,但如果結婚當日新娘爸爸身體情況不許可,婚禮就要在醫院的病房內舉行。新人擇了吉時,不在探病時間內,又要特別問准醫護人員特地為家屬開門。一切都是為了新娘父親能夠參加婚禮,可以想像全家人現在最關心的是父親的健康,其他一切都不重要。

平時新人們為了籌備婚禮花盡花思,各持己見,為張羅花球佈置等鎖事而吵架。但想深一層,婚禮最重要是與最親的人分享結婚的喜悅,一家人齊齊整整已是個恩典。

我未試過去醫院證婚,但我一點都不期待嘗試。希望新娘父親快些康復,可以在一個美麗舒適的環境見證女兒出嫁。

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結婚證書

尋晚買咗樽蜜糖,點知未開過都會漏出來。最慘係同一個袋裏面仲放咗一疊全新的結婚證書,攪到張張沾了少少蜜糖!我慢慢逐張逐張抺乾淨,吹乾,make sure張張都perfect。經過特別處理蜜糖醃製的結婚證書,更加甜甜蜜蜜!

證婚律師可以免費去婚姻登記處領取blank結婚證書,好像支票簿一樣,每一張都有serial number,寫錯印錯的結婚證書不可揑滅,要將cancelled的證書交回婚姻登記處。好在今次能夠成功拯救疊結婚證書,如果唔係要報廢全本,又唔環保又樣衰。

正如上述,結婚證書是blank form,資料由律師print上去。如果對於字體font or font size有特別要求,記住要向律師提出啊!

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