日本打風

星期二颱風飛燕吹襲日本時,我在四國的德島市旅行。颱風直吹德島市,像十號風球般狂風暴雨。
下午颱風略過後,天氣迅即轉好。不少旅客因火車和高速公路停開要滯留,我們查問過local road路面情況後,照原定計劃開車去祖谷温泉,當晚甚至可在星空下浸溫泉。
之後看新聞,才知道暴風在關西造成巨大破壞,那麼嚴重。
經歷二十五年來最强颱風,我能安然無恙,繼續行程,不得不感到very lucky!
昨日返香港前,我覺得要因為自己咁幸運而做多D好事積多D福。剛好回來後約了奧比斯開會,我答應了做盲俠行的義工。

主婚人

結婚證書要有兩個主婚人簽名,一般都是男女雙方各派一個主婚人,最普遍是雙方父親,但其實任何年滿十八歲的人都可以作為見證人簽結婚證書的。
今日去證婚,第一次遇上失明的主婚人要簽結婚證書。在儀式開始前,我在一張白紙上劃了一條橫線,練習簽名時我要給她的指示。又特地確保她在簽名枱舒適就座,在婚禮過程中她不用走動。與人溝通,做足準備,令婚禮順利進行,是做證婚律師的重要職責。今天又充實了我的經驗了。

返回校園結婚 (2)

兩年前第一次去中學證婚。兩年後同一日,我再去到同一間中學,為另一對同班同學證婚。今年的新郎是兩年前婚禮的兄弟。

兩年前我為了學校婚禮寫了關於學校禮堂的speech,本來打算今年再拿出來講一次。但今次的新人要求我講他們婚禮的theme “Time is Love”。我寫了篇新講詞。
“時間可以沖淡一切。但站在我們前面的一對證明了唔係所有嘢都會隨時間而變淡。佢哋由中一認識,中三開始拍拖,喺埋一齊已很多年了。
時間見證成長,時間昇華感情。
今日返去中學結婚,特別有意義。
回想第一次去這個學校禮堂,應該是辦理登記入學。你哋由小學生變做中學生,由小朋友變做少年。展開成長新階段。
今日在呢個禮堂結婚。由情侶結為夫婦,組織一個家,展開人生新階段。
執子之手,与子偕老。時間會繼續見證你們的愛,越來越好,二合為一的人生,越來越圓滿。”

Stay calm and be happy

Last night I went to a restaurant which stopped happy hour and the usual credit card discount on public holiday and public holiday eve. We left. My friend said she was sick and tired of Hong Kong being so greedy and decided to become more aggressive to combat greedy people.

I take a totally different approach.
When faced with negative people/event, if I counteract with more negativity, it would only make matters worse. (-1)+(-1)=-2.
I’d rather disassociate myself and not be affected by it. Stay calm and be happy. (-1)+0=-1.
Developing this formula further, I should actually do more good to balance it out so the world is not worsened by bad people/business. (-1)+(+1)=0

It’s a privilege to be able to choose to be happy or not happy, greedy or not greedy.
For those who choose to be unhappy, they deserve to be unhappy.
For those who choose to be greedy, they will never have enough, they don’t deserve to be happy. 

世界那麼大,我最多只是一粒微塵。如果還要做壞塵粒污染地球,枉為人!

Tell me three achievements

“Tell me three achievements.”
This is a question I was asked at a job interview many years ago.
I am thinking today, if I were asked the same question, I would give a very different answer now.
It doesn’t necessarily mean I have achieved more since then, but my definition of achievement has changed throughout the years.
I am quite glad about this. I don’t give the same answer because I have moved on in life.

Lifesavers

Lunch at an Italian restaurant today, hubby picked out a little dark green ball from his salad. Just as I was about to say “It’s a caper, eat it”, the ball lengthened to 15mm, then curled and flexed, started to move on the plate. It’s a living slug! I raised my hand to call over a waitress.

Hubby was very serious and said, “First thing, don’t kill it.”

The couple sitting next to us was amazed to see the slug. Instead of being scared like most people, the man offered to take the slug out to a garden on his way home. So a slug carefully wrapped inside a napkin was given to him.

Two western guys, two lifesavers.

兩個妹妹結婚了

剛剛個weekend去了兩個妹妹的婚禮。
一個妹妹的家姐兩年半前由我證婚,而家已成為幸福靚媽媽。家姐做MC,講細個時兩個人share一個朱古力bun,自己幾肚餓都會留番一半俾細妹。睇成長片段時,家姐感動到喊。回想我家姐結婚時,我喊足一日,攝影師想同我拍條片講講感受,我一開口就喊,冇辦法拍得到。所以我好明白個妹結婚有幾咁感動。
另一個妹妹的哥哥三年前由我見證婚禮。今朝哥哥post了兩兄妹小時候同今日亞妹著住結婚衫的合照。兩張相同一個pose。細妹要出嫁了,哥哥話仲係始終有少少接受唔倒。我好明白細細個一齊玩,個妹大個女要成家立室,第時要約先會一齊食飯,唔係返屋企就一定見到,實在要時間adjust.
兩個婚禮都份外有親切感。新娘daddy話認得我,有些我唔認得的人話我頭髮長了。見到兄妹姊妹個個都咁幸福,我叫做在他們的wedding day出過分力,真係好開心。

揀科

DSE剛開考,中六學生正在戰鬥中。取得DSE成績後,就要make a final choice on大學主修科目。這個選擇,隨時影響未來多年的事業發展路向,可能是十幾歲人最重要的一個決擇。

揀科和揀職業,是個興趣和能力的fine balance。有興趣但没有能力,一是未必入到所選的學科,二是入得到都讀不好,讀得到亦做不好。相反,有能力但冇興趣,讀得到,做得到,但不會做得長。

人人的talent不一樣,我會建議不要太過勉強去over stretch。應該找一個環境,令自己的專長不單只meet minimum requirement,更可exceed expectation。

用選美做個列子。假設我有八分姿色,我去一般公司工作,已是全公司最靚的美女,大把男同事爭着獻恩勤,為工作帶來不少便利。但如果我去選美,所有參選佳麗最少都有九分姿色,我的八分姿色馬上被比下去,我的樣貌由advantage變成disadvantage。

當然,參加選美不一定個個都想赢,有人覺得有嘢學,有人覺得好好玩,有人唔試過唔甘心,有人夢想有奇蹟。讀書和做事一樣,如果同學們不怕失敗,不怕因長期鬥爭但得不到成果而可能令自己失去自信,大可以試試aim higher。

最近在中學聽了個介紹廣告行業的講座。講者講到advertising好好玩,個個性格比較活潑的同學都突然話想加入廣告界。自問我都有幾分creativity,曾經考慮過做創意行業。我可以用盡我的creativity做一個平平庸庸的creative director,或者做一個creative好出人意表的legal director。我可以講,後者的路,容易行得多。

又平又靚嘅證婚律師

有人揾又平又靚嘅證婚律師,我朋友話平就唔知,但靚就一定,推薦咗我!哈,唔知佢哋講緊我的外表還是服務呢?

我post了上Facebook,很多人comment “Both”。Heehee…. 留言的人有剛剛結婚,也有已結婚四五年的。好感動,幫人證婚帶給我很多快樂。這份工作guarantee 每次接觸的人都開開心心,正經歷一世人中最重要最幸福的一天,而我可以play a part in it。

我要好好save起那些comments。如果日後猶疑繼唔繼續幫人證婚,我會攞番出來睇。有咩工作會得到咁多人讚美咁feel good呢!多謝大家給我力量!

再遊日本中部(6): tips

租車自駕遊是去日本最enjoyable最自由的玩法,車租不太貴,但toll road very expensive。這個trip車程長,花了HK$1350 on toll fee! 冬天租車去下雪的地方要加錢租snow tyres,it’s much more expensive than hiring cars in the summer. 之前幾次我都是經Tocoo.co.jp租車,但要留意有個Tocoo charge是不包括在car rental fee,會額外每天收取810 yen。計落it costs the same to book directly with car hire company. 日本冬天下雪,道路結冰,有時有大風雪,香港人唔習慣都有D驚,唔係人人都啱雪季日本自駕遊。

雖然越來越多人去日本中部,尤其是立山黑部和白村鄉合掌屋,但中文的旅遊書只得兩間出版社有出版,我覺得長白空系列那本比較comprehensive. 值得一提是日本很多個地方都有免費的rurubu guide, 我在香港買了飛驒高山那本,去到發現在酒店可以免費拿到,免費版本較少住宿資料,但更多食玩買資料,仲好過my paid copy. 去到日本各地旅行,記住去hotel or tourist information look for free guide!